Welcome to the C ing Through Loss blog. This is a new adventure for me but one that I believe will be helpful for several reasons. One reason is that it is a means to answer questions that we find hard to ask because we think we are the only one feeling the way we do and feel guilty because of it. Another reason for this blog is to share with readers that, we are never taught how to grieve so we grieve how ever we see our parents grieve or react to loss while we were growing up. My strongest desire is to use this blog as a tool to help people who are dealing with loss, grief, and bereavement know that there is a healthy way and an unhealthy way to grieve. Through this blog, I will share things about grief and grieving, dealing with loss of all types. In another blog, I will share about losses we never considered.
Loss, grief, and bereavement is not new to me. Personal life experience has been a great teacher. Life is not always filled with Hallmark moments and endings. Losses I have personally experienced include the poisoning of my cat when I was young, the loss of grandparents, several young cousins through illness and tragedy. My nephew died at the age of 18 while waiting for a heart transplant. Just one year later, my daughter, a special needs child, died at age 13. I do not know of anything worse than the loss of a child. Her death was surrounded by extreme life changing family events that occurred prior to and after her death. The loss just kept building the entire year of 1993. One time while I was visiting with my Aunt Nancy, I asked her, ” Aunt, you have lost both a child and a husband. Of the two which would you say is the worse?” She looked at me with tears in her eyes and said, ” I loved your uncle more than anything in the world. We were married 60 (?) years. But, the greatest and worse lost was Sandy (her daughter). It’s harder losing a child.”
I know what it is to lose a child and the dreams I had for her. I do not know what it is to lose a spouse, my husband and I just celebrated our 45th wedding anniversary. I know what it is to loose dreams, friends, a job, financial stability. My husband has dealt with the looses that comes with retirement. We recognized that losses come in many forms. There are unrecognized loss that we don’t even think about. You have some of those too! This is a topic I will address in future blogs and discuss in grief and bereavement classes.
Through my life experiences as an individual, daughter, wife, daughter-in-law, mother, aunt, niece, cousin, registered nurse, parish nurse, chaplain, pastor, minister, and life coach, I bring my skills, experience, education, love, and compassion to share and work with you. Help and support is available through classes, coaching, consultation, and collaboration for individuals and groups. Classes will be announced via Facebook and this blog. If you are interested in personal contact and coaching, please do not hesitate to contact me via the C ing Through Loss Facebook page or this blog.
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